The day you get told your child has cancer is the most unnatural day of any parents life. The days that follow are surreal and just as unnatural as the day your baby got diagnosed. From that day forward, nothing is the same, your life and the life of your children is changed forever, because from that day forward…
You share your life with cancer….
A life partner you never expected to have, never would want and most certainly would never want in your child’s life. A big shadow in every moment of every day in your life. A reminder that your life can be turned upside down in an instant.
Waking up that morning, I knew something big was going to happen. My husband and I had already decided the day before that our son needed to go to the doctor again because we weren’t happy with previous answers that his leg pain was growing pains. I knew there was something wrong and the pains were not just growing pains, it was something else, I just didn’t know what.
I was not prepared to be told he has leukaemia.
I was not prepared to travel 700kms away from our home the very next morning
I was not prepared to leave our daughter behind without really being able to tell her anything.
I was not prepared for my baby boy to undergo his first anaesthetic, his first surgery (to have his port in), his first lumber puncture (first of many), a bone marrow aspirate and his first chemotherapy treatment all within 72 hours of being told he had leukaemia
There are so many things along this journey that I was not prepared for, some bad and some good.
I would like to take this moment to focus on the good.
I was not prepared for the strength and courage that I saw in not only my son, but every other child with cancer we have come to know and have seen in our days at the hospital.
I was not prepared for the hallways of the hospital, once so scary, to become familiar and comforting as the hospital became our 2nd home.
I was not prepared to be met by the amazing nurses, who go above and beyond to make this journey as happy and smooth as they could, for not only the children but the nurses as well.
I was not prepared for the new relationships that I have formed along the way, new friends we have made along the way and will have for a life time.
I was not prepared for the profound positive effect this journey would have on my relationship with my husband and kids.
I was not prepared to receive so many blessings in amongst the hardest time of our lives to this point.
Being on this journey has taughtme so much, so much about myself, my wonderful husband, my kids and my life. I have learnt many lessons from our own personal journey as well as from people around.
The biggest lesson I’ve learnt is that life is truly a gift, you are not given any more then you can handle. There is a lesson to be learnt in everything that happens in your life, sometimes you don’t know what that lesson is until later on in life, sometime the lesson is as clear as day. Sometimes the lessons are hard to learn, the situation is hard to accept, what life has dealt you is truly heart breaking and life can be cruel.
Sharing your life with cancer reminds you that there is a lesson in everything. Sharing your life with cancer reminds you to embrace every day, cherish the ones in your life that bring happiness and bring your own sunshine wherever you go.
Tamsyn Kiely is a 30 year old mother of two who has been in Queensland, Australia with her husband and children for 7 years. Moving to Australia changed their lives and they have never been happier. Tamsyn is passionate about creating a healthy, positive and happy environment for children and teaching them about the good in the world, no matter what happens in life. Currently caring full time for her son since he was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukaemia in Feb 2014, Tamsyn has learnt a lot about Childhood Cancer and plans on using her experience to educate others about Childhood Cancer and all it involves. Through her experience Tamsyn has also realized how to pursue her passion for helping others.